tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4930511669840462683.post3737615429678599269..comments2014-07-18T05:51:39.323-07:00Comments on SPORTY MAMA SAYS: A Mom's Survival Guide to Life (... and more): Is competition bad for your kid's health?Sporty Mama Sayshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07492700528232154962noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4930511669840462683.post-66512349453042440902010-07-11T18:32:40.259-07:002010-07-11T18:32:40.259-07:00My sentiments exactly! Just boiled down into one h...My sentiments exactly! Just boiled down into one heck of an eloquent comment. Well done and here here!Sporty Mama Sayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07492700528232154962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4930511669840462683.post-88651547209360143322010-07-11T10:22:03.639-07:002010-07-11T10:22:03.639-07:00Wait, is this Alfie Kohn saying that losing is *ba...Wait, is this Alfie Kohn saying that losing is *bad*? Oh noes, I've been doing it wrong! If losing was bad then wouldn't the big races, the big competitions, the really hard things like the Tour de France, marathons, ultra-marathons, the Olympics only just have the few people that can win? Why enter given that the chance of winning is going to be 1 in 100 or worse and one's esteem will surely be devastated! And since everyone loses the lottery ... well we are a nation of tooth decayed esteems.<br /><br />Bah!<br /><br />Competition exists in our culture in endless environs: school, work, sports, marriage, entertainment and so on. Competition is embedded in our culture so deeply it might very well be human nature. There are winners and losers in everything, everyday, always. Losing is part of life, unavoidable and intrinsic. Chances are, if you are alive, you just lost something. <br /><br />I don't see competition as bad in and of itself. What is important is our attitude towards it - what our internal wiring and decision making processes use it for and do with it.<br /><br />I think it all boils down to finding what you are good at and like, and doing the best you can at it. And if I've got the right genes, the right training and the right opportunities, maybe I'll even win.<br /><br />If I can exemplify and teach my kids that one lesson then I think their esteem will be plenty immune from decay.John Frickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17298645665995039516noreply@blogger.com